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There is power and there is presence in letting go, in walking away.
There is also power and presence in remaining, in committing, in following through.
The difference is in the understanding of things isn’t it? It is in the motivation and the reason. It is in the truth of ‘why?’
The understanding, the acceptance, the forgiveness and the growth comes in realising and knowing the WHY.
WHY are we choosing to walk away? WHY are we choosing to let go? WHY are we choosing to remain? WHY are we choosing to commit?
WHY are we choosing to commit to an action, a course of action that we know will ultimately end in failure? (of course we have to determine what failure means).
WHY are we choosing to leave a path that might ultimately challenge everything we know about ourselves and therefore potentially may catapult our growth?
If we choose to walk down a path littered with pot holes, debris, tangled weeds at every step then of course we are heading down a path that holds danger. So the WHY is important. It is essential – essential to our health – mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
It is also essential to us understanding, allowing, enabling, accepting and forgiving.
The WHY helps us to learn, to grow, to integrate aspects of our soul – and our soul’s knowledge – that it would otherwise take us so much longer to do. The WHY actually takes us out of our emotional reaction (and therefore our emotional reasoning) and enables a process of spiritual and subconscious logic that enables the understanding, integration, healing and forgiveness at the appropriate time. And it also enables courage – courage that comes from the spirit.
It is easy to berate ourselves for decisions made or not made. For choices made or not made. For walking away when we should have stayed. For committing when we should have released.
The WHY makes all of the difference. It frees the soul and it enables the spirit. It allows the seed to truth to be known. The truth may not be easy, and indeed the truth of ourselves is always the hardest truth to know, to accept and to allow.
However, when the WHY is truly known…truly allowed…truly enabled…and truly accepted…then the WHY becomes freedom…even if the action, the path, the decision, the choice may not be the one that we should be making for our best self, for our health and wellbeing.
WHY always leads to truth. Truth always leads to freedom.
WHY always leads to enabling your power and presence.
Know the WHY.
“Moving forward isn’t easy; staying put is so much more straight forward”…except that it isn’t.
Staying put damages our energy, our mind, our emotions and our physical body. It stagnates joy, love, appreciation, gratitude and it fosters fear.
As beings of energy, which we are, we are in a constant state of movement, a constant state of flow – and ok, sometimes that constant state of flow feels like flowing backward rather than forward! – and to stop that flow is like trying to stop a tidal wave…everything just builds and builds and builds and eventually that water has to go somewhere and if we are not allowing movement in some way, shape or form (e.g. mentally, emotionally or spiritually) then the only place that the expanse of water has to go is within us.
As the inimitable Tony Robbins has said ‘You don’t grow with a No’.
Yet so much of the time, we don’t take the chance, we don’t follow the opportunity, we don’t explore the idea…and if we don’t start taking the steps then we never truly know where they might lead. There’s always, and will always be, a reason to say no but it’s the reason to say Yes that is important.
The Art of Discipline…I’ve was away over the last weekend in September on a retreat in gorgeous Northumberland 🍀 (aren’t we so blessed in this county with our amazing countryside 🙏) where I was invited to teach some sessions around trance mediumship. My view of Spirit often (as those of you who work with me know!) differs from the ‘norm’ and I have often challenged within my work and within myself the known boundaries and understanding. I don’t follow the traditional route but I KNOW spirit and more importantly I KNOW my relationship with them, my connection with them and I understand my work, my journey and my purpose in taking Spirit forward.
You know, when I was studying to be a teacher I was surrounded by people who were either teaching cooking on NVQ courses or teaching mechanics…what was I on the course teaching.. Crystal therapy! 😁
Yes at the time , wayyyy back when (!), I was undertaking my CertED. I was teaching Crystal Therapy and Reiki and so naturally when applying for a place on the University of Hudderfield’s CertEd Programme, I had to apply with what I was already teaching because you a)have to be able to undertake teaching sessions and have them observed and moderated as part of the course and you also had to be able to teach micro sessions to the other students so you HAD to apply with what you were already teaching.
Join me in Vlog 3 as I share a new project I’m working on, discuss how vlogging is making me think about how I communicate, why sharing ideas can be so supportive and why we stop ourselves from sharing who we are and what do.
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LOVE is Everything…that might sound rather twee if if was not such a strong and immoveable truth.
Truly, everything in life is about LOVE, because everything in life is about us. About who we are and about uncovering, unfolding, unfurling ourselves more and more and more. Moving more into our essence and allowing more of that essence to shine forth.
I am doing some work at the moment as part of an online programme, DareToGrow, that I joined a couple of years ago. This is the second time that I am going through the programme fully, and I am really grateful, empowered, and also somewhat relieved (!) to find that realisations I had about myself, my life and my work two years ago through the work of the programme are still very valid and on pointe today. They’ve refined, as things do over time, there is a greater clarity and what this second foray into the programme is doing currently is to help me refine, clarify and define even further. YAY! Don’t we just all love a bit of clarity! Continue reading
Diving deep. Diving into darkness. Diving into the darkness within ourselves that we are reluctant to switch a light onto. Diving deep into our own psyche to shine a light into that which we are not sure we can deal with.
Yet, if we think about it, our eyes adjust to the darkness don’t they? When we walk into a darkened room if we give ourselves a moment, our eyes adjust and whilst everything may not be clear there is a hazy awareness that begins to take shape.