Okay, so hands up how many of you work with affirmations or attempt to lol! They have been around for what seems like eons haven’t they, with great exponents such as Louise Hay and Law of Attraction workers championing the power of the affirmative statement. I myself have worked with them on and off for about twenty five years (and yes saying that makes me feel old!). And in recent years I have worked with them really consistently, and with great results. The power of affirmations to change something in your or your life can be immense.
However it was only when I was studying and working towards a vibrational essence qualification in 2004 that I truly felt that I understood the heart of the reason why affirmations can be so powerful.
They have long been lauded as the way to change our negative patterns of thought behaviour into positive mind-sets, yet for me that has sometimes missed out on what I feel is an essential component of working with affirmations. And that is the fact that what we say to ourselves doesn’t just resonate in the mind but although throughout all of our being; water holds memory.
Dr Masaru Emoto brought the memory of water to the fore with his work depicting how water crystals formed depending on what they were placed within, next to or came into contact with. He demonstrated how water that was placed in a harmonious and positive situation formed beautiful, symmetrical and perfectly patterned water crystals; whereas water that was placed with something negative or disharmonious formed crystals that were irregular, only part formed or of such as shape as to actually be able to feel the confusion or discomfort of the water itself.
Indeed, the fact that water holds the memory of the energetic vibration that it comes into contact with is the cornerstone of essence production; if you scientifically test an essence for its contents, the results would be water and the preservative, usually an alcohol such as brandy or vodka – so how do essences work as they do if the memory of the energetic signature is not supported and held in the water? (This is different to homeopathic remedies where tests will usually show trace elements of the original ingredient/s.)
It is interesting, is it not, to think of that fact that our bodies are made up of around 65-75% water… so what we say to ourselves, given that water has the ability to retain the memory of the energetic frequency that it comes into contact with, has an immense impact on our being. Both words and thoughts do have an energetic vibration.
I do work significantly with affirmations in my life; I believe that they are important in helping us to change negative behaviours and they do help us to come to a more positive and optimistic mind set. But for me, understanding that what I say to myself resonates not only in the mind but also within the myriad of water within me, changed my focus and the way that I worked with affirmations.
Understanding the memory of water meant that, for me, the affirmation did not just have to fit and work with me from a mental perspective but that is also had to feel right. It helped me to understand why some previous affirmations I had used had not really worked for me – they had been words and did not connect with me on an energetic level. And whilst they did have some impact, I have very so-so results about things and I would ask you the question: if you had ‘so-so’ results from something would you put the time into that exercise/endeavour again? Or would you not instead look for something which might yield better results?
I consider three things when structuring an affirmation:
What do I want it to achieve ( what action do I need it to help me take)
How does it feel when I say it (does it resonate with me)
Is the wording of the affirmation right for me (can I say it)
What do I want it to achieve? Whilst you can just work with any affirmation to improve your sense of happiness and optimism, it is also really useful to work with an affirmation for a specific purpose, for two reasons. Firstly, you can get a greater sense of whether the affirmation has worked/is working if there is an outcome that you wish to achieve and that helps to embed our sense of success; it also gives us the motivation and belief to continue onto the next step for change or improvement in our life or being. Secondly, when we aim for a specific end result, we will also find that blocks to achieving that outcome are made apparent to us as we work with the affirmation and whilst you may see this as a stumbling block, actually it is an immense positive for it tells us where we are restricting or blocking ourselves from achieving what we want to. You may need to change the affirmation if this occurs to work with the block that has arisen.
How does it feel when I say it? An affirmation needs to resonate with me; I need to feel it and I need to trust and believe in it. And this is what makes the difference with me in whether an affirmation really works with me and for me. If I am saying something that feels alien and is totally outside of all sense of my reality then it doesn’t stimulate that connection with myself and my energy doesn’t work with it to start creating the change. In order to know whether it is right for me, I need to speak it out loud. Our voice has an amazing capacity to tell us what we believe in. When we are just saying the words our voice doesn’t resonate deep within us; when we believe in what we are saying (and we don’t need to be conscious of believing it to actually believe it with our spirit and soul) our voice is centred and resonant and we can feel our voice beating within us. Whilst I do often recount affirmations in my head, I always say them out loud at least once a day when working with them and absolutely when structuring them. If something doesn’t feel right, this doesn’t mean that we should never work with an affirmation about that particular focus; it may simply mean that that focus I am working in is not what is important for me at this moment in time.
Is the wording of the affirmation right for me? This is about the actual wording and whether I can say it. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet for an affirmation to be effective, repetition is absolutely essential. We might be trying to changes years of patterns of behaviour and saying an affirmation once just won’t cut it. So it needs to be worded in a way that we are comfortable with and that we can say over and over again without getting tongue tied, because if we do we then lose the inherent meaning in the affirmation and our mind and energy gets confused with what we are trying to say. As we all know, there are a hundred ways to say the same thing (!) so choose the way that is right for you. If you are not flowery with words, keep it simple – it doesn’t make an affirmation any less effective to have simple words or a straightforward phrase. It is the focus and the connection with your energy that makes the affirmation effective and a vehicle for positive change in your life.
It is important to try it out and see what happens. You may find after working with an affirmation that it doesn’t feel right, doesn’t sit right or that you are not comfortable with it. If so, change it! So much of life is trial and error, and we can be afraid of falling over. Fall over. What is the worst that can happen?
Affirmations are a wonderful tool and they work with any area of our life or being; the practical, the emotional, the mental, the physical and the spiritual and everything in between. They spiral out from the centre of our being, flowing and shifting and enabling the possibility and probability of change. They are a way of us actioning something for ourselves. We all have responsibility for our own life and the choices we make; recognising the changes that we can make ourselves (sometimes a small change can have a big impact J) is hugely empowering.